Thursday, December 17, 2015

Wednesday, December 16, 2015

Out, Proud, and Playing It Safe Sexually

It's great to be out and proud. Many people are glad to have their new sense of freedom that coming out brings. But playing it safe sexually is also a must. There are ways to maintain self discipline in those hot moments with a sex partner. One of the biggest things to be aware of is your own drug use . Alcohol and drugs impair motor skills and judgement. Meeting someone on Out Personals, it's easy to go overboard and lose self control during  intense >hot gay sex   moments under the influence. Assess yourself during these times and chill out long enough to get yourself back together. And don't drive during this period till you're more coordinated.
Checking Health Status of Partners
You may often see an ad DDF, that means drug and disease free. While that might be true. It also might not be. Many people might not be aware of their status. If someone was tested for a disease six months ago, things may have changed since then. People who are hiv positive might not have a trace of the disease in their blood if they're on medicine, but I don't know if that means that can't spread the disease. It's often better to protect yourself and partner and have safe sex . Likewise, drug free might be someone in a twelve step program who may have used lots of drugs in the past but not now. Can you afford to have someone's past catch up with them while you're in the heat of the moment ? Sticking to safe sex covers you in these examples and you can enjoy your experience even more.

Barebacking and the New Gay Thing
Appearing almost as a backlash against self protection, bareback sex has become popular in the gay world. Bareback sex means sex without protection. It's very dangerous and there are casualties. You have to think about you're ability to love and care for someone who doesn't seem to care as much as they could about themselves. You're looking for someone you respect and admire not a social work case. There are many people who may have come out but are not proud of themselves. You have to be careful to choose partners carefully. You might not see this right away on a first date, for example, but eventually you'll pick up cues about your lover's personality traits. Even though gay rights have improved with legalities in marriage and joint property, there are still many living in the shadows of self-loathing.
Strict Safe Sex
There are ways to have strict safe sex. Some of these include phone sex, verbal sex. You can also "grind against your partner" like in a slow dance. Additional ways for safe sex include massage and kissing.
Safer Sex
Safer sex is defined by having minimal risk during sex of getting a sexually transmitted disease. It includes checking your mouth for sores after eating a sharp bagel or too hot pizza or soup. It also includes checking your hands and nails for cuts that are potential areas for hiv or blood borne viruses to get into your bloodstream. For safer sex, condoms are required not only for anal but also for oral sex. There is less chance for hiv to enter from oral sex but you cover the bases with condom use.
Condoms for Safe Sex
Condoms are the number one barrier protection agent on the market. They work by preventing body fluids to mix between two partners and reduce risk of exposure to semen borne contagions. There are some tips to use condoms effectively . Using the right size condom is one tip. If you or partner are larger than the condom it might be ineffective, you need to have the right sized condom. A condom that breaks in the middle of sexual relations takes away the joy of sex and replaces it with concern. Always use latex condoms, they are the strongest and if you're allergic to latex use polyurethane. For latex condoms, the lubricant you use must be water-based like K-y jelly or any of the lubes that specify they are water-based. If you're using a polyurethane condom because of latex allergy, an oil based lubricant will do. Believe it or not, condoms get old and expire. Check your stack and make sure the expiration date is within the present time frame . And check them if they've been exposed to high heat, sunlight or freezing cold. These temperature extremes can add wear and tear to the condom before it has ever been used and could break.
If you're considering gay or bisexual sex, you need to think about safe sex and your health . Get the facts and empower yourself. A one night stand might be just that and is nothing to risk your health over. Even though there are medication cocktails for hiv positive people, do you really want to take these everyday? Maintaining your health is equally important if you're hiv positive. Re-exposure to the virus can be detrimental to your health as well.
Having the facts helps protect yourself and stay as safe as possible. If you're checking out that Out Personals ad, you can respond more confidently. These safe sex facts will give you an informed edge in your sexual relationships and peace of mind later down the line.